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Ken asks…

Is normal to be nervous about infertility?

I am a 25 year old man. My wife and I are going to be trying for our first baby in a few months.

I have no reason to think I might be infertile. But I am still nervous that we won’t be able to have a baby.

We have been wanting a baby for sometime and I am worried our dream of being parents won’t happen.

My wife’s doctor doesn’t think she will have any problems concieving either.

Is it normal to worry like this?


Yes, but try not to. Just worrying about it can actual make it physically harder to achieve!

Relax and enjoy those last (hopefully few) long lies, late nights out etc

Betty asks…

Can Thorazine, Mellaril, or Haldol cause long term – permanet infertility in men, after they have been stoped?

I have a friend that has been accused of making a woman pregnant and he was on those 3 drugs from 88-94, he is 32 and has no children. We have been wondering if these drugs can cause infertility.
-added details- my friend is nearly impossible to get into a doctor’s office. We need to know if it is possible, the information I have found is inconclusive, doesn’t state male or female and doesn’t give how long “long term” is.


You would need to check with a medical specialist to find out.

Laura asks…

are there any products available in the stores to test men’s sperm for fertility?

I know that they have ovulation tests so do they have the same for men? Please let me know I am looking to be able to go to the store and not buy something online.


Yes – there is a product called Fertell – you can find it at drugstores – I know that I have seen it at our local CVS Pharmacy.


Please know that these tests are limited – they are very good for measuring sperm count, but motility, morphology, ph levels and other factors are best determined with a semen analysis requested by your doctor and completed at a lab.


Hope this helps!

Charles asks…

Why is infertility such a big problem in marriages?

I was reading my mom’s Redbook magazine because I was on a 10 hour flight and had nothing else to do, and the magazine made it sound like infertility was such a bad thing. I don’t get why. I’d much rather adopt than have my own child any day. Of course I would miss out on some, but overall I’d rather adopt. And besides, why would this be a problem in marriage? Maybe for the woman it’s a problem, but how is infertility an “issue that needs to be talked about before the marriage”?
well gosh, im so sorry for not knowing men could be infertile too. you can’t get mad at someone for not knowing sometihng.


Ummm, try to be at least a little sympathetic here.

Infertility is an issue couples should talk about before marriage. It’s one of those things that no one thinks will ever happen to them. But then, guess what, it does. Then they have to ask themselves questions individually and as a married couple. You may be for adoption, but that doesn’t mean everyone is. Some men and women don’t feel that they could raise an adopted child as their own. And that’s their business and their choice. Additionally, you don’t seem to understand how difficult it is to get an adopted child to begin with. As someone who has had reproductive issues in the past (now corrected due to surgery), my husband and I have looked into adoption. It’s a long process. There’s millions of parents out there who wants children, but there’s not enough children up for adoption. So then what? You also have to pass some really high standards. Background checks, references, financial checks, etc. And, even then, there’s no guarantee. It’s a long, hard, often expensive process with no guarantees. And then there’s foster children. Again, no guarantees. With a foster child, you’ve got many of the same issues, plus, in most cases, you have to worry about social workers getting involved, behavioral issues due to their upbringing, as well as the fear that their birth parents will one day return to claim their child again. And couples also need to ask themselves how far they’re willing to go. Some people believe in natural pregnancy only. What about fertility treatments? Ovulation drugs? IVF? Sperm donation? Surrogate mothers? Etc. What do each of them think is ethical and right? What would each of them do? It’s a very important issue that people should shed light on and discuss before marriage. Too many people are split up over infertility because they get to that point and they completely disagree over what to do and they can’t reconcile because they never discussed it before marriage thinking it would never happen. And it’s something that could all be avoided with a simple conversation to see where the two of them stand on children. You wouldn’t expect two responsible people to get married without discussing their views on children, so how do you, by any logical sense, think this is not included? And just because it’s so cut and dry to you doesn’t mean it’s so cut and dry for everyone else. You should be less judgmental and more sympathetic to others.

I just have to add, ten minutes later, and I’m still reeling from your completely insensitive and totally unsympathetic words, “maybe for the woman it’s a problem.” Why don’t you try telling that to my husband who had to hear about my miscarriage during his latest deployment to Iraq and see exactly how he felt about that. If you seriously think it’s not a problem for men too… Then ugh. And, uh, didn’t you ever consider that men can be infertile too? What about that?

Carol asks…

is it true that smoking marijuana can lower a mans sperm count?

or that it can lead to infertility in women? I’ve heard many rumors about this but I want FACTS. I smoked weed for quite a while but I dont anymore and my boyfriend still does.


I don’t know about pot but cigarettes can and do. They share some traits, like CO. (carbon monoxide)

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